What Makes A Mother?
by Kay Green, www.PreciousKids.org
(This is where I found this: http://www.mypreciouskid.com/articles/what-makes-a-mother.html)
Copyright 2001-2008
A mother can come in may forms:
~A mother can be a woman who conceives, births, and raises a child given to her by God. She is what we as a society see as a mother.
~A mother can be a woman who conceives, births, and raises a child given to her by God. She is what we as a society see as a mother.
~A mother can be a young woman who finds herself pregnant, unable to parent, who chooses life for her child by placing him for adoption. In choosing life for her child she becomes a mother. She will not be that baby’s parent but she is his birth mother.
~A mother can be the one who prays for a baby she does not carry in her womb. She becomes the mother and parent to a child given in adoption. She is there in the night, in sickness, in health, in joy, and in sadness. She is her mother.
~A mother can be a woman who takes on the care of another’s children through foster care or guardianship. She gives her life to loving them. They see her as mother.
I read the story of a man who parented a little boy that he believe to be his biological son. At age 10 he found out he may not be his biological parent and considered leaving the child. I thought how sad. He is the only Father that child knows. He IS his father. Blood alone does not make you more of a father or not.
I am a blessed woman. God has blessed me by allowing me to be a mother to 4 wonderful children. Three of them I gave birth to. One we adopted. Yet I am mother to all of them. There is no difference. My love them will last a lifetime and is unconditional. I am their mother!
What a blessing from God to be called mother. It is my highest calling!
Where in this 'article' is it mentioned the mothers who carried their child, but never got to meet?
The mothers who got to meet their children, but only for a short time?
The mothers who met their child, after their passing?
Where is it mentioned?
Are we any less of a mother, just because we never had the option to be there in the night, in sickness, in health, in joy, and in sadness? Or raise a child given to her by God.
Why does that make us any less of a mother? I carried my daughter for 6 months, went into LABOR (yes, real life LABOR!), and gave birth to her. I loved her, and still do (more than anything in this world!). Does it make me less of a mother just because she can't be here in my arms? Just because society doesn't get to see her?
Mommy loves you my sweet, sweet, Serenity! ♥
2 comments:
Ive thought about this so much. I dont feel like a mother, not really. I was her mommy while I was pregnant, but now I dont know how to be a mommy to a child Ill never hold again, who's eyes I never looked into, who never knew my face, my touch.... I love her desperately, but she was taken from my arms, it feels like my "motherhood" was taken as well.
Katherine,
You ARE still Ember's mommy. I know how you feel though, and even though you can't physically be her mommy, you are the one who is keeping her memory alive. I hate that we can't coddle our babies when they cry, or kiss their booboos when they fall down, but we still gave birth to our daughters, and that in itself makes us a mother. <3
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